When was the last time you took time the evening before to plan your outfit? If you’ve got a busy life it can be hard to even find two pairs of matching socks. But putting in the effort makes a huge difference in how you feel about yourself.
I’ve spend lots of money on clothes I don’t feel comfortable in. It still has the tag on and is collecting dust in my closet. But clothes can either make you feel great or terrible about yourself. That’s why it’s important to figure out your style.
You may be surprised when you find your own style, but it’s fun! I’ve always admired people who would ware prints and crazy clothes. But I found out that my style is much more like Victoria Beckhame’s. Stylish but simple. This has saved me lots of time running around in clothing store not knowing what to get. And it saved me lots of money buying stuff I hate. 1.
Go to Pinterest and create a new board and call it “Style inspiration”. You can make it secret if you don’t want anyone to see it. Spend 20-30 minutes pinning anything that catches your eye styling wise. 2.
When you’re done. Compare the outfits you pinned and find out what ties them all together. Is it specific colors? Prints? Accessories? 3.
Now go do a closet purge. Get rid of anything you haven’t worn in a year or anything that doesn’t align with your style. Now you’ve got a whole new wardrobe filled with clothes that you love.
This will boost your self confidence. 4. Spend time with people you love:
I’m great at starting conversations and I love a good laugh. Yet as I’ve grown older spending time with people felt like a battlefield.
On my way to a friends house I’d always imagine that I would trip and fall or get run over by a bus so I had to go to the hospital. It was the fear of not being good enough or not saying the right things. Thinking like this made me loose a lot of friends. I’d isolate myself and never leave my house. I started to get picky about who I wanted to hang out with. There was nothing wrong with my friends, it was my own way of keeping myself safe because I was scared to hang out with them. What better way to isolate myself than to blame the discomfort on my friends?
Yet, today getting out of my house is what keeps me sane and makes me realize that the thoughts in my head are wrong. When I socialize I remember how nice it feels and how much I love it.
So I encourage you to spend time with people that you love. Prove the negative voices in your head wrong. Prove to yourself that you’ve got this and that you’re a lovely person. Because I know that you are.
Pick up your phone right now and ask 1 friend to hang out. I want you to make this step a consistent one. So make a deal with yourself about hanging out with someone at least twice a month. It’s okay to start small.